Now it is time to take off the rose
colored glasses or beer goggles. After a breakup people tend to reminisce on
all the good memories. You may look back at all the good times and wish you
were still together with your ex.
It is time to stop glamorizing the past.
Sure there were some good times and they are worth remembering but don’t forget
the bad things too. There is a reason the breakup happened in the first place.
After the dust has settled its human
nature to look back and want all the good things back from a relationship. Is
it really worth all the bad you went through though? You have to learn to remember the good and
the bad and stop sugar coating a relationship that was not working.
I recall a time in my past when I was
dating an individual and laying in bed thinking to myself “Is this it?”. Even after
all the lying, cheating, and disrespect I still glamorized the relationship
after the breakup. Of course I took my rose colored glasses off and trashed
them. I realized I had a lot of fun but at the end of the day I was not happy.
Now I think to myself “No that is not it... there is so much better out there
for me!”
You may even be thinking “you don’t know
what you have until you lose it”. Well let me tell you from personal
experience, you don’t realize what you are missing until you find it! Until you
let go of what you can’t have you cannot discover what you want.
“If you’re still
hanging onto a dead dream of yesterday, laying flowers on its grave by the
hour, you cannot be planting the seeds for a new dream to grow today.” ~Joyce
Chapman
